Holding onto yourself

Maybe you don’t trust her? Maybe you don’t really love her? Maybe you don’t want to love her? Maybe She is not good enough for you? Or real enough for you? Maybe you are afraid of her? Of real her? That She may not be all that you imagined? Or that She is all you imagined? And that you might lose her? Or lose yourself?

she a part of me

“As an experiment, the next time you make love with your woman, feel through your own physical and emotional boundaries into her. Feel into her so deeply that you become unaware of yourself and totally aware of her. Feel yourself move into her, your boundaries dissolving so that you become her, utterly aware of her breath, her movements, her emotions. Love her with more abandon than you’ve ever allowed yourself before. Feel through not only your boundaries, but also her boundaries, so that you are both dissolved in the immense force of your loving. Relax into the force of love so completely that only love remains.
… The world will test you with dark, wild, and resistive energies financially and spiritually, for example, in the same way your woman is testing you emotionally. If you hide your deepest gifts from her in fear, you will also hide your deepest gifts from the world in fear. If you give up at a certain point with her, you will likewise only go so far in the giving of your gift to the world.
… Moment by moment, practice loving through your woman and the world, allowing the force of your surrender to transform every moment of experience as a lover, and trust whatever direction love moves you. Die in the giving of your gift, so you don’t even notice you have stopped holding onto yourself. Fear is your final excuse. Don’t fight it. Love through it.” ~ David Deida, The Way of the Superior Man


4 thoughts on “Holding onto yourself

    • Heeey it’s a really good book!! I think you will enjoy it. Even if it’s essentially writren for men, it gives some intersting insight into male-female energies and relationships. And I find him to be one of the rare guys who really gets us 🙂 I’m curious to know what you will think of it xox

    • Lol 🙂
      Not a guy but in love with many 🙂
      I hear of and work with too many unhappy couples. Whereas there are many reasons why we struggle in intimate relationships today, I think the change of male-female polarities has a lot to do with it… And his book is helpful in this regard.
      It’s my Valentine’s gift to all who are not afraid to love xox

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